Are failures the pillars of success ?

I have a fren and looking at him, i really wonder that are failures the pillars of success? Actually he is not able to do well in anything he tries. This is not because he is not good or lacks any kind of aptitude but he has accepted that he will not be able to do it. I will not say that he was the same since his childhood but he became like that in his graduation. In fact, he was very good in his school days and also got very good rank in the entrance exam for graduation. But he opted for the subjects which are considered to be the last option. He explains that he was getting various good subjects but didn’t opt for them thinking he will not be able to do well in them.

I really don’t know what went wrong with him that it completely transformed his personality. In the final year of your graduation when everyone is expected to be highly mature and responsible, he stands out from the crowd. There may be failures in his life but the best way to tackle them is to fight back. But it seems he has accepted them as his fate. He even sometimes praises me saying that I’m too good and i am completely speechless thinking how I should make him understand that he too is equally good. Only effort required is to change his perceptions about life and failures and be confident. I explained him many times about my own failures and how I faced them (actually panks made me realise that i am very brave in facing life, thanx panks). But he sticks to his own pessimistic notions.

After staying with him for a long time I realised that no doubt failures are the pillars of success but if failures exceed a certain limit as in his case, then really they can make the victim stagnant. It’s really not easy to face that horrible chain of failures. But it’s not impossible too since it's  rightly said “if you have never failed, you have never lived”. 

What matters: JOURNEY or DESTINATION?

From past few days I was in a dilemma.  Actually I got admission in a B-school(N) which is not an IIM L.So what I thought was to drop this year and give CAT again to get into an IIM. I thought this not because N is not good. But because most of my frens like P,A,R and panks will get into an IIM next year surely. So it created a feeling of inferiority in me that next year I may feel bad. But yes I want to clear that I will not at all be jealous of my frens because they are really good and deserve to be in an IIM.

I think what matters is the position which you get after you complete your education and not the name of the school or college or the university. It’s true that if you are from a good college or school then it matters. But if you can still prove yourself being in a school or a college of moderate level, then it’s really worth because then nobody asks you how you managed to be at that position because it’s your own calibre and potential that matters. There are so many people in good educational institutions and are not able to reach upto that level which is expected from them.

Actually these were the cerebrations which came into my mind. After all, my frens, parents and seniors also gave me the same advice i.e. to join N and I accepted it. Some of the people may think about me that I have accepted “angoor khatte hai” .But what I think is that the DESTINATION matters more than the JOURNEY. I don’t say that journey is not at all important but in the end destination is praised J.

Relationship: live it or leave it

So finally i’m writing my first post on my blog. its about relationships. well,i was inspired from the movie KANK to write this post. there are various relationships. but my focus is on the beautiful relation dat exists between a boy n a girl or between a man n a woman. Its love affair or marriage. any person can handle the bright side of this relation. But what about the dark side. Sometimes i wonder dat why u feel neglected in a relationship? why u still feel alone when u r in a crowd? why ur parter appears to be a headache n someone else a charm? and why u cross all boundaries which are not meant to be crossed?

I found myself in a confused situation to answer these questions. but ,later on realised that its absence of luv or understanding which can lead to such worst circumstances. After all, there is a respect in a relationship for each other.when this respect is lost, its not worth to stay in such a relationship. but when the same luv you find in a third person, u feel on the top of the world. u r just dragged towards him/her without thinking dat u r betraying someone.in place of betraying,its better to leave the relation cos every relation demands commitment and no one is a slave to bear betrayal’s tears.

But apart from betrayal, there is also another remedy to this. you can always sort out. i think this is the toughest thing to do cos it requires valour n u have to fight ur ego, pride, anger etc. for this. i always feel how can u break a relation which was started with such a gr8 bond of luv,understanding and respect? how can u forget those wonderful moments spent with ur partner? How can discard those memorable belongings of ur partner? Why can’t u give ur best to save the drowning relationship? but these steps can work out if u still feel something for her/him. this something can be care for him/her. i feel it is easy to start and easy to end but very difficult to start once its ended. but still if u r unable to tie up, then strictly leave it n move forward with never looking back.

After all , a relationship is meant to be lived and if u cant then just leave it !!!