From past few days I was observing some of the people around me and their love life. And after much thought process I derived some of the astonishing conclusions which might not be true according to you. To begin with I have a friend called A and he is with me in Mumbai. He had various girl friends before and presently also he has one. But when I asked him about marriage his reply was “shaadi to mom ki marzi se hi hogi”. And that forced me to think is love a game of enjoyment played before marriage? I mean how can you spend your time, energy and emotions with a person who you think is not going to stay with you for a long time. Here I want to quote a dialogue from KANK in which SRK says to rani “Mohabbat ke zamane guzar gaye janab, ab chhote mote pyar se hi kaam chala lijiye aap”. So love is time pass or mere enjoyment. Another friend A in Delhi is in love, as he says, with P. But he is always fascinated by his old female friends and even goes to meet them. As I asked him why you do that, his answer was really interesting. He said “Deepesh, there is always a girl in your life for whom you want to avoid your true love, may be for few moments”. On this firstly I was stunned but later on agreed as I too have done this once or twice. After all men are dogs. They are never satisfied with one true love. They are always fascinated by passing by fancies.
Next comes my friend K who did love marriage by going against her parents. But today after 3 years of marriage, she says there is no compatibility between them. On this my persuasions asks me that is love so fickle that it can’t last for whole life? If you are not able to tolerate each other even in initial phase of marriage then how would you be united when more responsibilities will be there. In such cases it’s better to finish it off. But still it’s not easy to face that trauma of divorce and break up.
At last, the finger turns to me since I’m in a relationship from past four years. On this I want to say that you have no right to destroy someone’s life and also you should not give this right to others to do the same for you. I personally feel that love demands commitment and it’s all about care. The more you care more the bond will get stronger. And if still nothing works well, then trust the words “marriages are made in heaven” and “someone, somewhere is made for you”. You will have that lucky one with you may be today or tomorrow. I think I’m sounding much filmy so I should shut my mouth....
