I have a fren and looking at him, i really wonder that are failures the pillars of success? Actually he is not able to do well in anything he tries. This is not because he is not good or lacks any kind of aptitude but he has accepted that he will not be able to do it. I will not say that he was the same since his childhood but he became like that in his graduation. In fact, he was very good in his school days and also got very good rank in the entrance exam for graduation. But he opted for the subjects which are considered to be the last option. He explains that he was getting various good subjects but didn’t opt for them thinking he will not be able to do well in them.
I really don’t know what went wrong with him that it completely transformed his personality. In the final year of your graduation when everyone is expected to be highly mature and responsible, he stands out from the crowd. There may be failures in his life but the best way to tackle them is to fight back. But it seems he has accepted them as his fate. He even sometimes praises me saying that I’m too good and i am completely speechless thinking how I should make him understand that he too is equally good. Only effort required is to change his perceptions about life and failures and be confident. I explained him many times about my own failures and how I faced them (actually panks made me realise that i am very brave in facing life, thanx panks). But he sticks to his own pessimistic notions.
After staying with him for a long time I realised that no doubt failures are the pillars of success but if failures exceed a certain limit as in his case, then really they can make the victim stagnant. It’s really not easy to face that horrible chain of failures. But it’s not impossible too since it's rightly said “if you have never failed, you have never lived”.
